Is happiness the only thing in life?

“Whatever we do is for our happiness,” my cousin sister put it across me, quickening her pace as she joined me on the night stroll. The conversation happened nearly two decades ago in a city adjoining Delhi. Years later, I sometimes reflected back at that small talk, wondering at the motivations, the tussles and tribulations of the young minds, that lay underneath. Those were the 1990s, when youthful aspirations were again in conflict with the preceding generations. My own state of mind in those days was one of inner absorption, undisturbed by the harsh grind of reality around. I was rather indifferent to the pulls and attractions of the world. Happiness is what everyone wants to reduce all of our actions and behaviour to. Maybe it is the case. But I always thought there were other matters that did not involve  pleasure. It couldn’t be just for my own happiness that I did everything I did. Everyone in the world today wants to be...
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Should true love be painful?

The author of this post thinks it is, and ought to be so. And cites a good authority to buttress the claim. True Love SHOULD Be Painful. My few paisas on this: It is not love that is or could be hurtful, but what happens to you with true love underneath your heart. When it fails to find expression, or when egos and circumstances impale you. Nurture it well… the first impressions, the fleeting glances, those first ingrained images, in your heart. They will always soothe you… forever. Having discovered love, though faded with time, it leaves you not. ...
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The world of thoughts

Thinking (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn) “Don’t think.” [sochne ka nahi], the local, middle-aged grocer, who also runs a farmhouse in a nearby city, advises me from his experience. During my college days I was much intrigued by the reality of the world of ideas and thoughts that surrounded us. I found it difficult to understand the reality of this world. One day I had an hour long conversation with my professor of anthropology over phone on this topic. (there were no mobile phones then). Later on, I found much comfort in the analogy of a bell… my assumption was that our thoughts and the brain corresponded to the bell and its sound. So our thoughts were as real as the sound waves that reverberated from the bell. I thought I had solved this problem. … I am no longer concerned about whether or not our thoughts are as real as physical objects or even waves. What is of greater importance is what value they hold for...
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Small town India

It will be well nigh impossible to understd the life situations of a local young man growing up in poverty and moral dilemmas that wud confound thinkers of some ability. Their rootedness, the need for money, love, security, all this while sticking to their traditions. Not for the faint hearted or privileged is this life. The moral, practical choices the young men have to face frm a young age are astounding, and a tragedy. No wonder they come to the bar and cry when they find listeners they can trust. Bec there is really no one who cares what they go thru, I guess. Their dependencies, what they owe to others for making their careers and the other help they take makes them walk on crutches. What strikes is their lack of self reliance. They are strong, fight like bulls. But when it comes to their own lives they cannot stand up as they would while helping others. Traditional sentiments flow easily thru...
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How difficult it is…

To decide, act. Action was never my forte. Girls beat me in this. Why is it so difficult to take decisions and act on them? I have mostly acted in instinct without bothering abt consequences. Dont act rashly, is what the archaeologist had told me when i was barely 18. I havent bothered abt conseqnces since. Now i am too old to be rebellious. But frankly, we need to decide And if we persevere, then the world will also support us, bec our intentions were right, just and honourable. ...
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Another weekend!

Lifestyles can be organised pretty simply. Dividing the day and week among your major concerns and interests, or what ought to be yr concerns and intetests, can bring the needed order and also help you grow. ...
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